Published May 17, 2023, 8:20 a.m. by Arrik Motley
In his Tedx talk, Phil Cha discussed how 10 years of travel has helped him find belonging. He started by recounting his childhood dream of becoming a pilot. When he was just 10 years old, he took his first flight and it was a life-changing experience. After that, he traveled to various parts of the world and realized that there's no single place where he belongs. Instead, he found belonging in the people he met and the experiences he had.
He said that travel has helped him become more open-minded and tolerant of different cultures and beliefs. It has also given him a better understanding of himself and his own identity. He recounted how, in one of his travels, he met a group of people who were living in poverty but were still happy and contented with their lives. That experience made him realize that material things are not as important as he thought they were.
In the end, Phil Cha encouraged everyone to travel and explore the world. He said that it's a great way to learn about different cultures and to find out more about ourselves.
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where are you from Canada no I'm out
where are you really from yeah we all
know st. Mike's Hospital Toronto Ontario
Canada eh come on man you gotta help me
out we're your parents from Korea I knew
it
I'm really good at that I knew you
weren't Chinese about maybe Japanese but
not you know Korean drama I loved it I
you kimchi - what's your real name
wait I could ask North or South come on
man it doesn't matter where I go what
country I go to it could be France
unfortunately it could be Britain it
could be Brazil people don't accept the
answer that I am Canadian
it doesn't get better when I go to Korea
where I do look Korean as soon as I open
my mouth however they think America at
home I'd be eating kimchi and speaking
konglish Korean English with my parents
and outside I would be speaking English
with my friends and being the best
banana I could be which is yellow on the
outside and white on the inside and I
always had these struggles with my
identity I remember the day that it
really hit me I was walking next to a
very reflective building with my friends
and I look over and I think one of these
things is not like the other one of
these things is not the same and all my
friends were white and I wasn't and it
made me really question my identity and
the reason why this became such a
problem for me was because if I didn't
know who I was I had a difficult time
really believing that I knew what I
wanted or I knew what I believed in or I
knew what identified in if I can't even
figure out what I am how can I make the
big choices in life so I would lie in my
bed staring up at the ceiling thinking
thank you for no real purpose just
thinking in circles with no real
satisfaction just thinking about Who I
am I thought so much I
name this term I called it and excuse
the language I called it mental
masturbation
it wouldn't be satisfying I just
thinking consecutively and then when I
was done probably fall asleep and then
the next day I would do it again mental
masturbation this did not get better at
the end of university I was still
thinking am I really making these
choices for the right reasons you know I
was a good Asian American I thought I'm
gonna be a doctor lawyer and/or engineer
this is where I'm supposed to be
life is good I had my you know
leadership positions everyone thought I
had everything control under control but
I really had no idea
and then divine intervention came a
friend of mine max and his parents
Linda Skylar and Steven stone who I will
be forever indebted to came to me with
the gift of travel and for a poor
immigrant I thought this was a really
big opportunity for me to actually get
out there and see the world so we
started doing our trip we started
traveling around we did the standard
Europe we went to see way too many
churches way too many art galleries all
those you know things that you could
have into the ground but Instagram did
not exist then and it was fun we went
over to Southeast Asia and I had a very
educational experience with a
same things with different went over to
Australia and after ten months of travel
which is amazing I said bye to my
friends and they went home but I was
compelled to keep on going I had to keep
on going in and it was because I was
actually finally making decisions of my
own poor decisions but I was making
decisions of my own I was learning about
what I wanted who I was what I believed
in is all coming together and I had a
fundamental belief that it's when you
leave your friends your family the media
and everyone who tells you who you have
to be that's really when you're free to
kind of figure out who you want to be
and it's when you leave your couch your
TV your McDonald's or Starbucks your
Wi-Fi and your language that you're
really free to figure out what you can
really do so I thought I got to keep on
going and I did my trip and I kept on
travelling so ten months turned into ten
years and I did have my home bases but
you know I wasn't settled for a very
long time I kept on popping in and out
always going around and I kept traveling
I did the standard thing where I would
uh you know it was pretty ridiculous I
went to over a hundred cities dozens of
countries I lived in a few cities as
well but it wasn't enough I thought I
need to learn more so you know I thought
you know what I like I like animals if
you don't like animals you can't be my
friend um I thought I'm gonna go around
the world and see the most majestic
animals which looking back may not have
been the most ethical choice but I
hugged tigers I hug Lions I hugged
pandas swam with whale sharks
subsequently I ate a lot of animals
scorpion I do not recommend by the way
and then I thought I like the human
experience
I gotta learn more about the human
experience and I love culture so if I
learn more about other people I'll learn
more about myself right so I hit up all
these festivals I went to the world's
largest food fight the Tomatina in Spain
I went to Songkran the world
I just water fight I'll call them all
the world's largest that would be there
there's even a wine fight for people who
like wine I went to a festival in Taiwan
where I would be dancing on fireworks
and yes you bleed you would also do
those lantern festivals Holi in India
the color festival and carnival in
Brazil I thought I was is basically a
hedonistic trip just figuring out
culture but it wasn't enough so I
thought maybe I need a wider spectrum of
the human experience
and some of it happened by accident but
I thought what if I go to the more
depressing side I went to Haiti after
the earthquake I went to nori New
Orleans after Katrina I've been shot at
I've had a gun in my face I've been
drugged
homeless robbed I caught a thief in a
Mario suit for some reason carnival you
got to go and I was a beggar on the
streets as well and although these
horrible experiences were bad at the
time they did teach me a lot but for
some reason it still wasn't a lot enough
and just like I was taught as a child as
many other people were taught that I was
a special unicorn and my dreams meant
everything I thought you know what I'm
gonna go for my dream I'm gonna do what
I always wanted no matter how
unreasonable it is and I grew up on a
video game video game called Street
Fighter so I thought I'm gonna go around
the world and I am gonna fight everyone
I documented it I called it my level up
trip and I did ridiculousness
I did a marathon and every continent
Antarctica was a lot warmer than you
would expect
I I lived in 12 different countries
where I did martial arts and I lived in
the Shaolin Temple I did Brazilian Jiu
Jitsu in Copacabana I where else la with
mandatory Freddie Roach learning how to
box
Spain everywhere else I would just go
around the world fighting just like I
thought was this amazing trip and my
life started turning out into a weird
Facebook profile where basically it was
just a series of cuddly animals
festivals
and running lots of running and a lot of
jumping for some read weird reason the
police officers did stop but it was just
to take pictures and I came back with
all these photos all these experiences a
lot of participation ribbons and way too
many t-shirts from runs and I still felt
the same I didn't really learn much
about myself
I just felt older I wasn't old but my
friends were having babies and getting
mortgages
I felt poor I was in poorer poor but I
was in debt I didn't have savings and I
felt alone and when I say that I don't
mean like I was all lonely I mean you
ever watch one of those TV shows where
there's a group of friends and they have
their adventures every single week but
once in a while a guest I would show up
and then you wouldn't see him for the
next season that's pretty much what I
felt like where I would be
in and out tella cool story I'm gone I
didn't have my my crew my group of
friends where I felt really really close
to so basically I passport stamps and
stories so I was back to the start lying
in my bed looking up at the ceiling
thinking but this time I don't call it
mental masturbation because I had a lot
of material think back on and really try
to dissect my travels to find an answer
and that answer actually came really
early on probably been the second year
of my travels in North Korea and it was
one of those very vivid moments where I
was going up the mountains in a bus I
was listening to this song by new Java's
called miss line and it was just perfect
cuz we were literally in this mist line
and I was raining and the clouds are
kind of around us and I was looking at
the window of the bus and there were
these water droplets on it I'm thinking
back that's probably when it all hit me
and I figured it out this whole idea of
identity and problems and things that I
was trying to figure out was all on this
wind
and I would look at one of these water
droplets go across the window and it
would get thinner and it would start
stopping and then eventually would be
gone and that's how I was living my life
I was this solo raindrop kind of going
around along until I was stopped and
when I think about those moments back in
my trip where I felt really exuberant
where I felt really belonging where I
fall amazing is because I was like a
different raindrop when you look at
another part of the bus it was full of
water
all these little raindrops all around it
and as this raindrop went down it would
collect from everything around it gain
speed gain momentum get bigger and
fatter and just kind of go all the way
across and when I thought about it I
felt like that was actually my identity
it wasn't so much a I guess a place it's
not so much I'm Canadian anymore I'm
Korean anymore it wasn't even the
experiences themselves in my trip that
were the teacher it were all the people
I was with it was this group of
ridiculous people trying to find
themselves as I traveled around the
world that really contributed to who I
was I have this passion from these fire
performers attention to detail from
these crazy cosplayers that I would know
competitiveness from the b-boys and the
runners I met on Antarctica were a total
different level of insanity yeah some of
them running hundreds of marathons every
single year I don't have a country
but I started to finally figure out kind
of who I was I kind of felt a belonging
in a way and that's where that's what I
try to teach the people that you know
when they asked me would you learn from
your travel is that stuff that this is
the biggest lesson I learned from it is
that when I look back it's all 20/20 the
four things I learned from this entire
experience was when I know what I who I
am I know what I want I know how to
change myself
I know resilience and I know belonging
it sounds simple in a way but that's
that's what all the ten years kind of
comes together to and with those four
things I feel ready to take over the
world
knowing who I am I kind of know what I
want there's a book called The Alchemist
by Paulo Coelho oh my god
and he says I you know if you know your
heart you won't surprise yourself
I make horrible decisions guys the worst
decisions make the best stories but I
make some bad decisions and whenever I
make that bad decision and something's
gonna happen I'm like no this is you
this this is exactly what you would have
done you wouldn't have changed it ever I
know what I want and you know funny
enough I'm actually going back to
medical school um before I was wondering
if my parents were forcing me towards it
now I realize it's actually what I
wanted I just lost 10 years it's okay
it's what I would have done I know what
I was it's also good because I know how
to change myself and I'm not talking
p90x and you know dieting and all that
stuff to influence yourself it's really
a lot easier than you would think
just like that raindrop that was going
down that window you collect from people
around you which sounds pretty obvious
and if you surround yourself with haters
and people who are negative people that
influence you in a poor way you'll take
it on you'll start gossiping and you'll
think more like them being inspired is
it's not that difficult in a way you
just got to surround yourself with
people like the people here or people
that you know that would push you
forward make you a little uncomfortable
you surround yourself with these water
drops and you will absorb some of it
you'll also leave some of yourself
behind and you'll change if you hang out
with just photographers I swear you know
photography terms it'll happen
and it'll happen automatically so I know
what I want I know how to change and
then the next one is really important to
me is resilience dealing with stress is
difficult emotions are the only truth
I'm told it's the only thing that'll
make you quit a job or go and find
yourself in some ashram in India it's
something that really affects you
because when you get those fields you
got to deal with them recently I went
through a very difficult time in my life
where I lost somebody who was a very big
part of my identity
and when you live with someone or when
you are with somebody and you lose them
you might lose the memories the times
and a huge chunk of who you think you
are and you might even not know who you
are anymore
but if you're thinking that you are this
water drop it's not that bad to get back
on your feet you just gotta surround
yourself again with people who remind
you who you really are and that was
really important to me and sure this
part is gone but doesn't mean that you
can fill in the blanks again and you
know become strong again as an identity
and identity is really what we're
looking at when you look in the mirror
and you think that's who I am
and the last thing was belonging and I I
still get the questions you know where
you're from people still ask me about
North Korea if I was born there Fila
people still talk about kpop and all
that other stuff but belonging to me is
easy now I was which was the hardest
question of my life and it's just when I
look around I see a collaboration of all
the people that have made me who I am
today
as ridiculous as they are or as
explosive like a fire performer that's
all a part of me now and I know exactly
where I belong it's not a geographic
location we don't need identity as a
geographic location anymore it's easier
when you're in Korea and let's say your
five closest friends all eat kimchi and
all speak Korean and all do the same
things and all want the same school but
in a multicultural environment where
none of my closest friends speak the
same language identity is just this
collaboration of everyone around you and
that's where I found my belonging and I
think that's the most important thing is
to know where you belong thank you
you
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