Published May 21, 2023, 8:20 a.m. by Arrik Motley
If you're like me, the very thought of networking makes you want to crawl into a hole and die. The idea of walking into a room full of strangers and trying to strike up conversations is my definition of hell. But I've learned that networking is a necessary evil if you want to be successful in business. And it doesn't have to be as painful as you think.
Here are a few tips for introverts who want to network without losing their minds:
Before you walk into a networking event, do a little research on the people who will be there. LinkedIn is a great resource for this. Look up the people who are speaking and see if you have any connections in common. See if there are any mutual interests that you can chat about. Having a few talking points in mind will make starting conversations a lot easier.
It's better to have a few quality conversations with people you actually connect with than to try to talk to as many people as possible. You're not going to remember everyone you talk to, so you might as well focus on the people who make an impression.
After you've talked to someone, be sure to follow up with them. Send them an email or connect with them on LinkedIn. Mention something you talked about so they remember who you are. If you keep in touch, you never know when that person might be able to help you out or vice versa.
The best way to connect with someone is to be yourself. If you're trying to be someone you're not, it's going to be obvious and people will be less likely to connect with you. So relax and be yourself. It's the best way to make meaningful connections.
There's nothing wrong with being an introvert. In fact, some of the most successful people are introverts. Embrace your introversion and use it to your advantage. networking doesn't have to be a nightmare if you go into it with the right mindset.
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you may not know it but you're sitting
in the middle of one of the most amazing
and vibrant startup communities in the
United States and it's not just tech
startups every day in every corner of
Portland people are rethinking
reinventing and innovating on any number
of products via apparel biking banking
doughnuts you saw some doughnut
innovation this morning donut inside of
a donut pretty innovative education
healthcare nonprofits we even have
people innovating on how business can
better collaborate with local government
I try and track and promote as much of
this stuff as best I can but a lot of it
is grassroots and hard to track so it
makes sense that when people are looking
to get involved in the startup community
they wind up finding their way to me I'm
Rick Taurasi and while helping Portland
folks connect isn't in my job
description it's the work I find myself
doing every day I'm not alone there are
a bunch of us working on this effort to
build community it's not easy work and
we have to do it anyone can do it
literally anyone I know that because I
am probably the last person on earth
anyone would choose to do this work not
outgoing
I'm not extroverted and meeting new
people makes me exceedingly
uncomfortable
I think probably the best way to give
you a glimpse into the personality that
I have is to take you back and introduce
you to my best friend from kindergarten
every single day the first thing I do
when I got to school was find my best
friend as soon as we'd found one another
we'd immediately go hide in this little
tent in the corner of the classroom just
the two of us we're practically
inseparable and we'd spend hours in that
tent just me and my best friend golden
walnut now this was Montessori school I
get that parents can be a little
creative with names but see golden
walnut wasn't one of those creative kids
names kind of think you see where I'm
going here because my best friend in
kindergarten was in fact
a walnut solid friend though seriously
back then we've referred to that type of
behavior as being shy today we see it
more as being introverted clearly pretty
aggressively introverted
no offense walnut so right if someone
who would rather hang out in a tent with
a walnut can do this building community
work fairly confident you can do this
community work as well even if you're
introverted like me because introverts
are counter-intuitively actually really
really good at this stuff I think it's
because we become comfortable with being
uncomfortable we've gotten used to being
in awkward situations because for us
every single interaction with another
human fairly awkward
so introvert or not I've found through
my experience that it's easier for
anyone to meet one-on-one face-to-face
because it's not as scary as a group of
people it's not as scary as attending an
event by the way hi to all the
introverts watching the livestream right
now
I see you
and I can now for the first time in
history confirm that meeting one-on-one
face-to-face is nowhere near as
frightening as standing alone on stage
talking to 3,000 people
[Applause]
[Music]
I called these one-on-one meetings
collecting dots in collecting dots I'm
given the opportunity to meet new people
with a variety of backgrounds and
perspectives I'm able to step outside of
my comfort zone and I'm better at best
of all I may be able to capture dots
that have the potential to benefit other
dots I've managed to collect now being
introverted isn't the only reason people
avoid connecting with the startup
community sometimes it's because they
think they don't do startups or they
don't have anything valuable to add but
the fact that you don't do startups is
exactly what makes your insights
valuable the startup community has added
more than enough of our own echo chamber
what's needed now are new opinions a
diversity of ideas and people with new
and new experiences and backgrounds not
more of the same because unfortunately I
think it's pretty obvious where that
more of the same behavior has gotten us
collecting dots can be time-consuming
but you can make it more efficient folks
tend to open up around food you just had
lunch you probably talked to a lot of
folks around meals it's the family
dinner dynamic or the watering hole
effect and in my experience a cup of
coffee is the smallest possible
instantiation of that dynamic over the
shortest period of time a cup of coffee
helps people open up it helps us as
humans to connect and connect more
quickly so building community collecting
dots can happen simply and quickly over
a cup of coffee and someone to have it
with best of all it helps both of you
collect the dot so efficient but still
intimidating because a lot of folks
worry about providing value during that
short timeframe of the coffee meeting so
let's be honest most everyone I've had a
coffee meeting with
tell you this I am completely useless in
99.9% of the coffee meetings I have I
mean I listen I drink my coffee I ask a
few questions and sure every once in a
while I have an insight or something
that may be valuable but that's a rarity
and that's okay because collecting the
dots isn't even the most valuable part
of building community for me it's the
hardest part but not the most valuable
the real value comes when I long after
I've been jacked up on caffeine
potentially days or weeks after I've had
that meeting the real magic happens when
I have the opportunity to step back and
reflect on that dot upon reflection that
dot gains context it gains connections
it starts to provide value to all of the
other dots I see it stops being a single
point of reference now you might say
those connections aren't they common
sense talking a lot about common sense
here my perspective on common sense is
common sense isn't common
frankly it's only common to you so for
me it makes perfect sense why I need to
connect the former head of project
management at a massive multinational
corporation with the founder of a tiny
local blockchain start-up for me I can
see why I need to connect the dot that's
wrestling with rethinking venture
capital to the dot who's successfully
churning up wacky flavors of ice cream
those connections are obvious to me and
because of your unique experience
because of what you focus on day in and
day out because of your dots you're able
to see connections that I can't see
someone else is able to see connections
that neither you nor I can but they're
obvious to them this is how community is
built by connecting the dots that only
you can see but this doesn't just happen
naturally if we leave it to nature it
won't happen as quickly as we need it to
it might not happen at all
building community is artificial there's
absolutely nothing natural about this
especially for an introvert like me and
despite what we've been taught not
everything artificial is bad sometimes
humans come up with some pretty amazing
things artificially like coffee
and golden walnuts so enough of the talk
and enough enough theory let's get
tactical if this struck a chord and
you're raring to go I don't know maybe
you're an extrovert or something I don't
get you but I get you all I'm asking you
to do is just schedule a coffee meeting
with one new person just go collect one
new dog but if that feels like too much
trust me I get it all I'm asking is that
you simply say yes to the next coffee
invite you get just say yes and you'll
still manage to collect too Don you both
will that's all you have to do to build
community the reflections and
connections you'll figure that out I'm
confident in fact I'm convinced that
right now every single person in this
audience with your existing dots knows
someone that someone else should know
and you're the only person who can make
that connection because you're the only
person who can see that connection
because to you it's common sense so
let's use your common sense and your
common sense and your common sense to
collect and connect those dots and build
a better more tightly knit community for
all of us two cups of coffee at a time
thank you
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